Ok, why do people feel the need to cast themselves and others into narrow, stereotyped roles? I'm speaking right now of the lesbian community. Labels have bloomed like mold on last week's neatloaf-and-tofu scramble. Boi, gurl, queer, gender queer, gender f*ck, butch, femme, butchie femme, femme-y butch, dyke, tranny boi, tranny boy, tranny boi dyke, transgendered, FTM, transitioning, gender neutral, androgynous, etc, etc. But still, people look to define others by their own opinions, or try to alter themselves to placate or please someone else. One girl I know has considered cutting her hair to look for lesbian. Another has large breasts and deep dimples and short short hair and wears tight shirts and people assume she is femme although she's one of the most guy girls I know. Others won't select a gender and people can't understand that. One feminine girl I know rarely stands up for herself because she thinks that's what people expect, but she's very tough and just afraid to show it. And goddess forbid a butch woman one day shows up in public in a skirt.
Noone wants to be judges, but almost everyone judges. Just let people be. There's no need to mimic traditional hetero types and roles, or pick a gender just because "that's the way it is". Maybe that's not the way it is for everyone.
I went out in a beater today that says BOI. Got a lot of looks in a shopping mall. Wish someone had talked to me though, rather than making assumptions and giving me dirty looks.